I believe we will all be healed and made whole through love. Healing is the most beautiful thing we are capable of; watching a cut scab over and scar shows us the intelligence and resilience of this flesh we were born into.
Yet we are never healed back to the same thing we once were. One look at my left knee, and you know I had a major surgery. I remember seeing my knee for the first time in outpatient recovery. A nurse took my bandages off, and no one prepared me for what I saw. This knee carried me through three-quarters of a soccer game a few months ago. This skinny, dangling, nerve-numb, purple-stitched and screwed together apparatus looked nothing like my leg.
Within weeks, my surgical wounds healed. Within months, my muscles reformed. Within a year, I was running and playing soccer again. But I was never as fast. When I cut too hard, I can feel the screws. I practice yoga. I play tennis. I run races and lift weights and walk my dog. But it’s not quite the same.
How could we expect anything different from healing our souls? How would we expect a new love to make it as if our hearts were never broken? How could we expect a child to make up for the agony of losing one?
There is all the difference in the world between healing and never having to heal in the first place.
Between those two places there are scars and screws and pain and tears. There is faith lost and love lost and identity reformed. When we face healing, we will never be the same. Healing is beautiful, but it only comes once there has been suffering.
Being human means being a fragile, little thing in a big, broken world. We will hurt. Along the way, we have the choice of turning our heads, looking around, and seeing all our friends hurting with us. We can help each other heal, and we can cry for that which cannot be healed, and we can laugh at the fact that healing is rarely graceful and often clumsy.
By acknowledging the gap – the gap between what we once were and what we are now – we can be kind, and we can be helpful, and we can be healers. Let’s be healers.
Photo Credits: Headshot: Tai Kerbs Photography, Featured Images: Dave Getzschman Photogrpahy